Farnsworth Sisters

Dressing for the New School Year — Placing MY Feet

I have seen a lot of posts of kids going back to school in their new “duds,” as mom called them, looking all clean and happy — and I took one of each of my children as well.  It has made me think of an experience that I had while I was school-clothes shopping with Spencer recently.

I overheard a lady telling the sales clerk that her daughter was in “major depression” because her boyfriend had broken up with her.  The mom didn’t know how her daughter would make it to school when it started and was there to pick out clothes for her to help her get out of bed.   She asked the clerk if a certain halter-top would be good for school, and they laughed thinking of the daughter being sent home on her first day of school for dress code violation.

My first thought was, “Do I try and make my kids happy by buying them clothes?  Even if the clothes are modest, do I try and get certain brands or styles to give them confidence or friends? Or do I try and get them out of ruts and troubles of their making—by what I buy them?”   I was there shopping, too, after all.   “What messages have I sent to my kids about where confidence, friends, and even clothing come from?’  I prayed quickly that I would be a good steward of our resources, but more earnestly that I would know what message to send my kids on this topic.  And then I didn’t think of it again.

The next time I read my scriptures I recognized Heavenly Father directly answering that prayer through his Word.  Certain phrases stood out.  “Blessed are the meek. Blessed are those that hunger and thirst after righteousness. Blessed are those that are persecuted for my name’s sake.  Ye are the salt of the earth.   Ye are the light of the world.”

Within a day or two, I was able to tell my children with conviction that  I care very little what they wear to schoolthis year.  But I do pray that they will clothe themselves with the Lord’s truths — meekness, the Holy Ghost, forgiveness, charity, turning the other cheek– so that they can be the salt that hasn’t lost its savor, and so that they can hold up the light, which is Jesus Christ.  Fashions will come and go, but the Lord’s truths will always be the right clothing.

True confidence, God’s blessings, and His happiness come as I learn the Lord’s words and squarely place my feet on Christ’s teachings.  And then I will not flounder to know what to teach my children.  I can be a parent to actually lead my children to the happiness and peace of the Savior,  and not simply follow the world.

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