Farnsworth Sisters
Category: Ups and Downs of Parenting

Carpool and Cousins

It brings out the worst in cousins.  It brings out the best in cousins.


As I dropped off my last morning carpool and thought about the past school year, I had to shed a tear of  joy and a tear of sadness for another year of carpool finished.

The race for the front seat and all the trash talk that comes along with it.
Three sets of double buckles.
“I forgot my backpack.” and the groans that followed.
BYU vs. ASU- we may have permanently damaged Brittany.
Singing Fish and Chips and Vinegar over and over.
Stories of cousins sticking up for each other on the playground and then hearing them pounding each other in the back seat.
The never ending game of calling cars and fighting over every car that is called. (Britt was damaged during this too.)
Talking about politics as we pass all the political signs on corners.
Getting all the scoop on every teacher and kid in the school.
Singing the latest primary song.
Strong opinions and strong love.
Trying to finish homework.
The report of the previous night’s sporting events and sharing the pain of defeat and the thrill of victory.
Grace and Nate yelling to the carpool as we drive away that they were going fishing for school that day.  And Tessa yelling back that fishing wasn’t real school.
Hannah throwing up at least once a week from car sickness.
Holding up the long line of cars as the kids jump out of every nook and cranny of the car.
Singing and  dancing to Dynamite.
Watching Tessa, Kendyl, and Cameron hold hands as they walk into school.


Goodbye Spencer


This year carpool loses Spencer Gurr to Greenfield Junior High.  He will now get to bike in the fresh air to school.

I love Spencer.  He is positive, energetic, and always ready and organizing fun.  He looks out for everyone in our carpool and compliments others on their successes.  He gives his all to everything he gets involved in- including singing and discussions in the car.  He is so self-motivated.  On top of all that he has a huge heart – he looks out for people who might be struggling and he does something about it!

We will miss Spencer in carpool next year!


A Story about Cousins

Abe came home from school a few weeks ago and said that he and Daniel Wood had been given a challenge in PE that day.  They had their hands and feet tied together and then they had to try to cross the rock wall.  He proudly reported that they were the only ones in the class that made it all the way across.  I said,

“You can do anything with cousins.”

We all agreed.









Hidden Faith

Tessa was reading to Faith while I was working on dinner.  I went in to check on them and this is what I found-I thought of that part in the movie E.T. when he is hidden in the stuffed animals.

This is how much love this baby gets ALL the time. She is so lucky to have lots of older sisters!


The Best Things About You, By Your Children

We’ve all had the experience at Mother’s Day of our child handing us a beautiful school made card and a gift made of pipe cleaners and tissue paper to go with it.  Some where glued to one of these items is usually a list of things the child has filled in the blank about their mom.  For example:

My mom’s favorite thing to do is nap.
The best thing my mom cooks is macaroni and cheese.
My mom weighs 493 pounds and is 67 years old.

Now that most of your children are grown up, I thought we should revive this tradition.  I asked at least one of your children, “What are the best things about your mom?”  Below you will find their answers.  But I am not going to put a name with them — yet.  See if you can guess which mom is which from what your children like the best about you. (I didn’t include myself.)

1.  Supercook, very considerate of our needs, freely shows her love to us, interacts with us, so pretty

2.  Nice to me and everyone around her, optimistic, lives what she believes, always up for a game, testimony

3.  Taught me how to work hard and have self-discipline; loves her kids and grand kids; best example of how to be loving, kind, selfless mom; I know she has a testimony and never afraid to share it; always has projects going on and is helping others; I am constantly striving to be more like she is/was for me.

4.  Happiest when she’s helping others; super loyal -anything from family and friends to her favorite waiters and waitresses- we have to sit at their table so we can make sure they are taken care of; people just love to be around her; doesn’t talk about others negatively- if she hears us start, she creates a diversion; she exudes confidence, sincerity, and a fun personality

5.  Obedient- loves and lives the Gospel of Jesus Christ and loves the commandments; motivating- with her enthusiasm she can make you feel like you can do anything; life of the party- makes anything and everything fun; creative and original; observant and intuitive- knows others needs and tends to them

6.  Discernment- can see how actions today will affect the future- she is always 3 steps ahead of me in finding what could be best for me and my family; strong and faithful- she does not waiver, loves the Lord and will always be found doing what is right; refined and beautiful; organized and efficient; has a very kind and generous heart- she gives and gives and gives.

7.  I don’t think I’ve ever seen her and my dad fight; she has time to talk to me; gets more excited about my life than I do; always wants to help; puts family first no matter what.

8.  Always thinking of others; makes others feel loved and welcome; is funny; #1 fan of kids at games and recitals;  strong testimony and great example.

You’ve all come a long way from naps and mac n cheese!

Everyone of you has influenced my life by either mothering me and/or being an example of how I want to mother my own children.

I loved Sherri’s thought about our Mom and see similarities between what she said about our Mom and what your children said about you.

One thing that I think that every one of us inherited from our mom was the love of being a mother.  Through all the laundry, horns of cheese, sewing, complaining, ball games, musical instruments, and mopping, Mom found and finds true joy in being a mother.

We all may have different strengths, weaknesses, personalities, and talents, but I have seen all of you love being a mom.  In a world that makes everything and anything seem better than being a mom, we are blessed to have an example of where to find true joy – in being a mother.

I love you all and I love you Mom!

I will post the answers in the next few days.